Life is HARD!
Life is hard. Have you ever felt that, said that, or heard others mention that? I know I've said it and felt it, more then once, but here's the thing, it isn't hard, it's a choice. I know, I admittedly sometimes find myself still feeling those "it's hard" feelings, but the truth is, we either make it hard or not...and it all comes down to a choice. The lives we are experiencing today, right now, are a result of choices we have made, some good, some bad, some that served us and others that didn't. Life doesn't happen to us, we make life happen...which is where the choice part comes in.
I have found myself struggling BIG time lately with many facets of my life. I'm not entirely happy admittedly. It's not one thing in particular, it's an accumulation of things, and, things that I wish I would have done or not done that leave me sometimes feeling like life is hard. But here's the thing, it's only hard because of the choices I made. Nothing else. So, it would stand to reason that making different choices would allow for a different outcome, right? Yes, but the hard part is making those different choices when you feel like life has you by the ba***, right? The constant beating up of oneself, the negative talk, the feeling like it's too late, or that ship has sailed. Think about how often you speak negative thoughts to yourself, or perhaps, you are in so much denial that you push any thoughts out of your mind and let the days, weeks, months and years slip by in a trance-like state...you're not alone, it happens to us all. We humans think we have an unlimited amount of time, and unfortunately, we don't.
So, with this knowledge that our lives can be anything but hard with different choices, and that sometimes includes realizing that our mindset requires a massive shift, what do we do? First thing is realizing that it is even an issue. Second, write down what areas of your life you are dissatisfied with and get a clear picture of how you wish they were, that is super important. And third, seek out someone who is where you wish to be in life and ask for their support. Sometimes all it takes is a little nudge or pep talk from someone who has what you desire in whatever area of life you are unhappy with. An outside perspective on where you are going wrong, what you need to do, and how to start to change is what it takes.
I'm grateful to have these people in my life, a good swift kick in the pants or a reality check does wonders for a mind that is spinning on circles, and sometimes it requires a daily dose of reality for a while to start that ball rolling. The main thing is, don't succumb to your thoughts, they will take over your brain, your day and your entire life, and you my friend, have too much to offer the world to let your talents, goals, dreams and desires be waisted by feelings and thoughts that don't serve you. Reach out...sometimes being open, honest and vulnerable isn't as scary as it seems. For me it has been liberating to lay out my flaws, insecurities and mess ups in life to someone who appears to have it all...and know that it's okay, I'm not alone, and I'll get there. If you need an ear, I am here...you are not alone either, you've got me.
~ Monika xo