Updated: Jul 30, 2019
I wrote this note on my personal FB page, and I thought it would be fitting to share with you too. It's raw, it's real, it's how I am with my friends...and now you will know me a little bit more :)
So now I'm 50. Wow. On one hand I don't want to be 50, but the alternative is much less desirable. So 50 it is. I always thought by the time I reached this age I would have it all figured out, but I don't. Here is what I do know for certain though.
Life truly is what you make it. Our thoughts, mindset/attitude/outlook, is what shapes our daily life, and in the end, shapes our entire life. I have stopped caring what others think. Not saying that I don't respect others or treat people as I would like to be treated, I just don't give a shit what others think about me if it is negative, gossipy, mean or condescending. And neither should you.
And on that note, if you don't like that I swear, too bad. I had a woman private message me a few years ago and launch into me because I threw in a few swear words when I was making a very powerful point about being a woman. If ya don't like it, don't message me, the unfollow button works like magic!
I also know that I spent WAY too many years obsessing over my legs, yeah, my legs. I have never liked them. Yes, muscular, but genetically I have CELLULITE on them, and it was my point of insecurity, so I have avoided wearing shorts...like my entire adult life. But no more. So, if you see my legs, and they ain't perfect, too bad, they get me around and they are strong, and I love them.
Small boobs are awesome! Really, they are, who knew?! Why I ever got breast implants is beyond me. Well, I know why, which is my next point.
If you're hanging around with people both men and women who are obsessed with changing their appearance on the daily, you need to find new peeps! Social influence is Massive when it comes to how we perceive ourselves, from partners, friends, where we hang out, they all have an impact on what we consider normal, good-looking, attractive, worthy etc. If you want to suck, lift, cut, plump, chop off, add on consider loving yourself enough to love your body the way you were born. Not saying working out and being healthy and fit shouldn't be a goal, in my opinion it should because it will determine our longevity and quality of life going forward as we age, I'm saying plastic surgery isn't the answer to self-love. Period.
We waste so much time living our lives as 'victims of circumstance'. Did you know that each decision is in fact an action or in-action? So, if you want a different outcome going forward, make different decisions. Period.
There is no "if when I'll be"...there is only NOW. If we aren't happy, fulfilled, joyful NOW, the future perceived happiness "if this, then that" will never happen. Happiness is now. And from within.
I don't have time for idol chit chat, scratch that, I have the time, I just don't like it! If it's about 'fluffy' stuff like gossip, how your nail polish doesn't match your hand bag, sending me meme's with animals having sex, how you hate everything and everyone, how many medications you are on, how much weight you have gained, how broke you are but are unwilling to do anything about it, I just don't have the mental space or desire to talk. Sorry. I am very very protective about what goes into my mind...because I am very very aware that what the mind absorbs the mind thinks and focuses on, and believes and becomes. End of story. If you want to talk about solutions, happy, positive or enlightening things, I am ALL EARS!
I want a house. With a yard. Over looking the ocean. In Vancouver. End of story. Anyone have a winning lottery ticket?! lol Okay, I'll settle for close to a forest, lots of green, quiet, peaceful, view of water would be great! Dreams don't become a reality until you put it out there!
I am a professional network marketer and I am proud of it. I was never suited to listen to a boss, and from the age of 23 I became independently employed in the fitness profession. Since then I have learned that true independence is owning a business that allows me more time freedom with the more money I make. Don't get me wrong, I work hard, and it hasn't been easy, still isn't. The last 15 years have been up, down, way down, and back up...and repeat. It's definitely not the profession for everyone, it beats you up, people beat you up, the economy can beat you up, but it's worth it, 100% worth it. I have met some incredible life long friends, made an impact in people's lives that I never could have imagined, have grown my self-confidence, worth and ability to truly know who and what I am about because of this profession. Oh, and if you think it's a Pyramid scheme or Ponsie scheme, reeeeaaallllyyyyy? Another thing I don't have the time for!
And last but not least, I am SO appreciative of my life. I love where I live, the nature and amazing lifestyle of health and connectedness I get to experience. I love my family and friends, I love this incredible body that has definitely taken me, and I have taken it!, on a wild ride all these years! I've learned I have a strength and determination that isn't the norm, and I kinda like being that way!
So, here's to entering this new chapter, to new and exciting beginnings, memories and even more incredible friendships and business partners yet to come. Thank you all for being a part of my journey, in FB land, on this blog and beyond!
~ Monika xo